What do you want from your ceremony? How do you want to feel? How do you want it to be, traditional or unusual, small and intimate or large and loud?
Whatever it is, your unique ceremony will let you do it, (as long as it’s not perverted or against the law of course!) And it can be where and when you want it too as there are no restrictions on place or time (you might have to get permission if you want to use a farmers field though, or at the top of Emley Moor mast, -Yorkshire folk will know this place– now that would be a cool venue if you're not afraid of heights!)
It is YOUR special day and you must remember it IS about YOU. You should feel relaxed and comfortable as well as excited and full of anticipation so make sure your choices are for you, and you are not being coerced into things by others (you know the people I mean!!) Here are some ideas for you to get your inspiration flowing:
Location: beach, woodland, a boat, double-decker bus, lighthouse, farmhouse, tipi, or even your own back garden. Whatever venue you choose it does not need to be licensed for weddings.
Music: your favourite songs, a string quartet, hymns, a singer, a Gospel choir, brass band or even a sing-along by your guests (this is good fun). as long as your venue agrees and has the facilities, anything goes.
Readings, poems, quotes or stories, serious or funny
Time: sunrise, afternoon, sunset or even midnight under a full moon
Vows and promises written by you (with help from me if needed) expressing what is most important to you
Rituals or Traditions: hand-fasting ceremony (tying the knot) jumping the broom, drinking from a loving cup or a simple candle lighting. I can even create a ritual specifically for you.
Include your family, friends and even pets in the ceremony if you want. Dogs make great ring bearers
Whether you want your ceremony to be simple, sincere, and straightforward or awesome fun and a little bit mad the choice is yours
What's the difference between a ceremony led by an Independent Celebrant, a Humanist or a Registrar?
I am an Independent Celebrant. I am not restricted by any belief or faith and can, therefore, include in a ceremony what is important to you whether that be religious, non-religious, spiritual, or otherwise.
Neither am I restricted by location, time, content, or style. A celebrant-led ceremony has much more flexibility and is created around your wishes, your story, and what is important to you. You get the best of all worlds!
Ceremonies do not include the legal part. If you wanted to legalise your marriage or Civil Partnership you will need to organise this separately.
Humanism is a belief system and a Humanist Celebrant creates purely non-religious ceremonies in line with their own beliefs (not necessarily yours)
They don’t believe in the supernatural (Gods/Deities) so cannot include rituals, anything spiritualistic or religious in a ceremony.
Ceremonies (in England) do not include the legal part
A Registrar led civil ceremony is prescribed by law and is restricted in content and is more or less standard for all couples, only the names are changed.
Religious elements cannot be included (e.g. hymns, poems, readings or music) and you are limited to time and place (i.e daytime, and venues must be ‘approved/licensed’ for weddings)
Ceremonies include the legal part